Strephon's response

Strephon Williams a writer and dream expert, responded to my post so I thought I post it here.

"HOW TO FIND INNER WISDOM TO DEAL WITH LIFE SITUATIONS - The issues don't come any more difficult than this, Dan Brown, and others similarly challenged. Wisdom is the reality perception of life as it is that leads to effectiveness in our journeys. Now let's see how we can be effective. Effectiveness is the art of manifesting in everyday experience what we intend. Not necessarily what we want.In this world of ours most people tend to live through others rather than through themselves. Thus we cannot look to 'heroes' for our answers. Most people are not given the talent, the power, or the luck to just handle life in effective terms. So we struggle along. Yet what can be done? One fundamental wisdom principle is: There is a creative solution to every problem. The trick is that what we see as the solution from an ego point of view may not be the solution in terms of our actual reality.1. Wisdom says, "Make your choices in reality. Decide on the greater value and sacrifice whatever else stands in the way of that value".2. Wisdom says, "You don't always make it in life". You don't always succeed in what you do. Gambling in Las Vegas is a lot like living life in the real world. Some make it big, a very few, a number make it on the plus side, they gain more than they lose, but many lose more than they gain.3. Wisdom says, "Do things in life that give you more energy and value than you lose in doing them".4. Wisdom says, "Live your life consciously, knowing what you are doing as best you can, and making choices to live in the real world".If we apply these wisdom principles to your situation we come up with the following: 1. Usually a person's wisdom function weakens to the degree they do not follow it, do not follow their intuitions, what they know instinctively is right to do and they just don't do it. 2. To build a strong sense of what is right to do in life you have to act on the truth of what you do know, and gaining confidence from that you move forward in life. 3. Existentialism: We are our choices. What we choose is what we become. Choose, choose and choose, and never look back. There are no right and wrong choices, only choices and their consequences. You cannot know ahead of time the outcome of your choices. But choose to deal with whatever are the consequences of your choices. 4. In practical terms, write out your possible choices, but include the possible consequences that go with these choices. Place a value on the possible outcomes so that you are choosing for outcomes that may happen and have value for you. 5. There are no guarantees in life. You win some. You lose some. Therefore choose as strongly as possible for the best values possible. 6. If you wait to be sure that a positive outcome will happen you may wait forever. Sometimes there is no clear choice. You have to choose the relative best and go from there. Don't stay in stasis is the one choice you can make. Then choose and deal with the consequences. 7. When in doubt choose for new life rather than staying in the old or what is happening now, which may be stasis. Risk going down hill by also risking building a better life. 8. Don't be afraid to fantasize a brighter future for yourself. Do not base your picture of the possible future on what happened in the past or the difficulties of the present. Fantasize a possible brighter future and then try and ground the picture that stays with you step by step. 9. Go for greater. You see what you have going for you now and maybe it is not that much on the plus side but a little. You see also that which could destroy what you have. Thus if you don't have much going for you, you can decide to go for a lot more than you now have, and this is your fundamental choice. 10. Choose and never look back. You cannot stay holding onto the old and expect to have the resources in you you need to develop a more positive future. 11. Sacrifice the old for the new. We have to say No in order to really say Yes. We must free ourselves of the past and the present to move into the future. We need all our energy for the future. 12. Act when at a maximum of energy and potential. Act when you have a chance with enough resources to make your move. Don't wait for having all you need before you act. One is never completely ready to make a new move in life. Act when almost ready, when you are in positive energy, when you have some chance for gain. 13. Trust the Source, trust the process. This means that if any of us had to rely only on ourselves we might not do very well in life, or do quite badly. Trust means trust that there is help out there if we make the first steps. Do all you can yourself and then trust that there are people and events that can also help you if you look for them and do an energy exchange. 14. Take each of these life wisdom skills and write down examples from your own life to go with each of the points. This will help you see more clearly your situation. 15. Change how you see things and you can change your life." Strephon WilliamsNetherlands - USA - Saturday, March 25, 2006 at 11:05:33 (CET)

The one thing that keeps me here is worrying about my Mom and her company (mom, grandmother and niece) . Have I place them in danger? Those thugs know of my father and my Mom, who have done nothing to them, if I leave will they retaliate against them? How could I have any peace knowing that I might have placed them in danger, particularly my mother. So I remain stuck here , a target. My father say "Take care of yourself!, Don't worry about your momma"..but I guess I kinda feel responsible.

I haven't had any luck trying to incubate a vivid enough dream in answer to my question. Its been a week at least. I used to dream so vividly, I 'd get frustrated cause I didn't know what to do with all the information now I don't seem to have them anymore. The one question for me is "What of my mother"? I'm 43, maybe its time to move on. do I have to live in my mother shadow , 40 more years?

One dream I posted here, sort of referred to my mother , when I was trying to fix a car, carried it portable to a new house in a woody surburb, the car was a station wagon. Eerily enough I come to find that my neighbor has move a station , like the one in my dream next to her house, but I don't understand the significance of it, perhaps it portends danger to me or her.

Also another "old" dream that relates to this situation, is that dream I had where a tornado whisks away my mother house, and moves it a couple of blocks away, after I tried to save them. Then I end up in a strange town and in a Martial Arts studio, neede some kind of dentistry.

In dreams like this , I try to rescue them, but I can't because of "infighting and disorganization" there. Its kinda like the feeling I have now, but how can you save your relatives and mother against such phenomenal forces? In my life now, it might not be phenomena I need to protect them against, but force which might be more earthy.

In which case , this point to me having to obey these thugs...but I'm not sure I can win that way either.. Maybe this is just a lose/lose situation.